Let me start by dusting off the cobwebs from this blog. I was so committed to posting regularly and then I disappeared. Im sorry guys, but Life happened (I’m ENGAGED ya’ll? ). As my world changed, I decided that my blog too should change, so during my absence I decided to create a brand new series entitled ‘Journey to the Aisle’ to help myself and other brides-to-be through this wedding planning process.
If you’re like me and you’re new to the wedding planning game or you are single and/or waiting (just bookmark this page for when the time comes) take your pen and paper and follow along. This is a long post, so grab a cup of tea (or a glass of wine if you please) and enjoy.
So… You’ve just said Yes to the man of your dreams.. what next?
Heres 10 things to get you started in the right direction:
1. Call your friends and family
Set aside a few hours to call your family and friends to share the news. Honestly this was hard for me because I’m not a huge fan of phone calls, but this is a MUST before you start updating facebook or twitter posts. If you have a big family, its ok to enlist help from parents and siblings to spread the news.
2. Get your ring insured
This is something that most people don’t think about. If you have home insurance or car insurance why would you not consider ring insurance? There are a few ways to insure your ring. If you have homeowners insurance, the ring can actually be added to your policy. Another option may be to insure the ring through a company that specializes in jewelry insurance (yes they exist..lol). It’s actually easier than you think… just google it.
3. Decide on a timeframe
You don’t have to settle on a date, but I would advise that you start having discussions with your significant other about a time frame that would be appropriate for the wedding. Things to consider include: Do you want to get married within the next year or wait another 2-3 years (or more.. my cousin calls these people Lord of the Rings ?)? Do you want to get married in a particular season? Do you want to take your time or do you want to get it done as soon as possible? Do you have family members who you would want to be there? If so, are there times in the year that would work best for them?
When I got engaged, I knew I wanted to get married in the summer because: A). I hate being cold and I did not want to be cold on my wedding day. B). It offers flexibility for guests whose travel is restricted by school schedules.
4. Create a pinterest account
It was only after I got engaged that my obsession with pinterest began. This is the time to daydream! Pin pictures that catch your eye, create inspiration boards, look at colour schemes, jot down ideas. This is the fun part of wedding planning because it is where you begin to decide what you want and don’t want for your wedding.
5. Decide on what type of wedding you want
Once you have your pinterest inspiration board, this will give you an idea of what type of wedding you want. Do you want a fairytale wedding? Do you want a particular theme for your wedding? Did you see something online that you want at your wedding? Take your time with this step because everything else depends on this. You may also want to start considering your colour scheme at this time.
6. Determine your budget
The budget conversation is always an awkward conversation to have…but it has to happen. You’ll need to consider how much you have saved up and how much you are willing/are able to contribute towards the wedding. I am not an advocate for going into debt because of ONE DAY, so be honest with yourself when determining the budget. Also consider your parents and how much are they willing to contribute if at all. Remember that a wedding is just one day…what will happen with the rest of your life if you use up all your money on the wedding?
7. Hire a Wedding Planner
Once you know what type of wedding you’ll want, you’ll decide whether or not you’ll need someone to help you coordinate your special day. There are many types of wedding planning services available from day of coordination services to full wedding planning. The type you decide to go for will depend on your wedding budget and also how much time you are able to devote to the planning process. Keep in mind, a wedding planner is extra money, so make sure that this fits in your budget.
8. Start a wedding savings account
This is the part where you start to live broke. You may need to cut the number of meals you eat out LOL! Pack lunches for work, reduce the number of holidays you take per year. Any dollar you save is a dollar that can go towards your wedding budget.
You can also look online for higher-interest accounts at sites like ally.com and etrade.com have and set aside a set amount of money every pay cheque that will go towards wedding expenses.
9. Create a preliminary Guest List
The purpose of this is to get an idea of how many people you would want to invite. Ask both sets of parents to contribute to the list. After you have your list, you can edit or trim as you see fit.
10. Shop for a wedding venue
Finding your wedding venue can be fun, it can also be overwhelming because every venue offers something unique. The key is not to find a venue that meets all your checkboxes (because likely you wont find it) but to find one that meets your KEY requirements. Before you go looking, write down the top three things the venue needs to have. A big one for us was space. We needed a venue that would fit the number of guests we would likely have (see point #9). Once you find a venue, they will tell you the dates they have available. You can’t plan much else for the wedding without a date, so I recommend finding your venue before you try booking any vendors.
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I hope you found these tips helpful. Stay tuned for my post on how to find the perfect wedding venue 🙂