** Disclaimer- We had initially planned to get this post out to you guys before the New Year.. but we faced some challenges in getting this post done… its not easy working on a post as a twosome ya know? Anyways.. Better late than never.. right??
Today we are going to be going through our year (2017) in review. While this may seem like a silly exercise, as I mentioned in my earlier post, it is important to reflect on the good and bad of the previous year in order to identify opportunities for growth in the New Year.
It is always challenging to pull together lists like these because a year is a long time and yet it always seems to fly by in a blur. Creating this post has helped us to slow down, celebrate and relive some of the best moments of 2017. It has also helped us to pause and reflect on the not so good moments and consider opportunities for growth as we move forward into the New Year. If anything, we can look also at this list in a year’s time and see how far we’ve come.
I (Amara) got married
A: In 2017, I took the biggest step in my life so far by saying YES to an eternity with my best friend
D: Cheessaayy.. but I too said YES, to being the best maid of honor our generation has ever seen.
A: LOL of course!! You were really the best!! With an epic speech to go with it
D: I also gained a brand new brother, so that was a nice bonus!
We decided to collaborate on this sister blog- Azarya Life & Style
D: As many of you have probably noticed, Amara and I are very different, we have different voices, different callings, and very different ideas on how to get stuff done. Coming together on this blog was a pretty big risk!
A: It was tricky to start- because as my sister mentioned, we are so different. We have such different schedules and also live in different cities. Setting time aside to agree on things and make decisions is hard, but so far it has been a great decision and I’m excited for the future of this blog!
Traveling to Nigeria
D: In 2017 we returned to the motherland!
A: Some of us returned twice!
D: Well technically your second time was in 2018… But visiting Nigeria was honestly the most fun I’ve had in a long time! We got to see our grandmother and other family members we hadn’t seen in a long time.
A: We went back for my Traditional Marriage (Igba Nkwu)… which helped us connect more with out traditions and our heritage (Pictures / videos coming very soon) !
D: I became extremely aware of how out of touch I am with our culture. I had so many questions and needed clarification on almost everything!
A: I on the other hand am very in touch with our culture so it was a great trip for me!
D: I also got food poisoning and lost a lot of weight which did wonders for my summer bod! A double win!
Some more great things that deserve honourable mention
- I (Dera) graduated University
- We went to the city of Angels (LA)!
- I (Amara) bought my first home
Moving to Toronto
A: While I could have also put this in the good category (it was good), it was also one of the harder parts of 2017. I had previously looked forward to the day I would be able to spread my wings and fly (move away from home). When the day finally came, it was harder than I imagined. Although I had lived away for 5 years while in University, the finality of this move stung a little. While I know I am always welcome and will always be at home in my parents’ house, it also will never be the same.
D: As a representative of the family home I would like to clarify that you are not welcome back… You left, stay gone!
A: …that’s rude!
D: IM KIDDING! Having my sister move away for good was a real struggle! It has been a real adjustment getting used to not having her walking distance from me. The beauty of technology is that we are never really that far apart. I feel like we probably talk more living in different provinces than we did when we were under the same roof, so thanks Steve Jobs!
A: Even though you like to call me right as I’m trying to get to sleep.
A: Lesson here is to never underestimate the stage in life you are in. Don’t be in a hurry to grow up or to move to another stage because once you do, you cannot go back!
A: In 2017 we suffered a significant blow as a family. This is something that had been coming for many years but the events of 2017 literally was the straw that broke the camels back. Without going into much detail, we are still working to regroup and recuperate.
D: I have never been more grateful for my family than I was in 2017. Although the circumstance that brought about this new-found gratitude are unfortunate, I am certain that God is moving in all things!
A: The majority of the year was spent planning for my wedding. To say that the process was hard is an understatement. I put my trust in several vendors who ended up letting me down. Additionally, I really struggled in terms of delegating. I found myself doing a lot of busy work. I can look back and say that the wedding was a success- I just wish the process wasn’t so stressful!
D: Not to make everything about me, but as Maid of Honor wedding planning was also extremely stressful for me! Amara is much more gentle and considerate than I am, so I was often the one who had to be cut throat and confront people about their bad behaviour. I made a lot of enemies for the sake of #Amarnie2017.
While there are many things we hope to accomplish in 2018, the big things that we are looking forward to/ hope to achieve include:
A: Becoming more prayerful, leaning and trusting in God more.
D: Twinsies! 2017 was definitely a test of how far I was willing to go with trusting God and I am so excited to lean into that more in 2018.
A: Getting better at connecting with people in flesh. I need to set aside more intentional time for meeting up with friends on a one on one basis. Schedule phone dates, in person dates etc
D: I want to get fit in 2018! I am coming to the realization that I won’t be young forever and I need to start treating my body well if I want it to last. I think I am going to start spin class again!
A: Giving our all for Azarya Life & Style and connecting with our readers
D: I can’t wait to grow this project and reach more and more people!
Other things that we are looking forward to:
- Travelling the world
- Getting better at photography + perhaps taking a course or two
- Practicing piano
- Learning a new language and getting better at our native language (Igbo)
- Baking & trying out more recipes
- Cooking more Nigerian food
- Embrace the diversity, vulture and social scene in the City of Toronto
- Learn to delegate
We hope you guys enjoyed this post! Until Next Time